Anonymous asked: Does your maintenance master use intense sensations (pain) while you service him sexually, or do you service him without any added sensation? My master is slowly getting me to accept more pain during sexual service because he believes the only pleasure I should feel is from giving him pleasure. He is also introducing humiliation--does your master do that too?
Pain is sometimes a part of my sexual service, when he chooses - either because it gives him pleasure to see me serve through pain, or sometimes because he knows I get a certain amount of pleasure from pain and he may be in a generous mood and give me pleasure as well.
Physical pain is a tricky thing. Remember — Sex happens in the brain. After you go through pain and sex together for awhile, your brain begins to associate sexual pleasure with pain (it’s called the Pleasure/Pain Principle) - Now - sharp or uninvited pain won’t seem sexual — but spanking, breast clamps, welts, etc. will begin to make you become aroused and wet once your brain begins to associate those sensations with the feelings of sexual use and pleasure.
Sharp/Intense pain can have the opposite effect (the brain will add more adrenaline and less dopamine to your system so you will become more edgy, have a harder time focusing on anything (including your master), and have an increased desire to run or fight.
The best way for your Master to know which reaction creates the best combination for his pleasure is to start with lower levers of pain and increase over time., noting the reaction and holding listening sessions where you can describe your sensations. As for as making his pleasure your “Only” pleasure - that’s likely to backfire. One can only jerk the brain around so much - then it starts doing things on its own.
Slaves aren’t really prone to humiliation producing a reaction. Because - we are slaves - as long as we are follow a Master’s commands - we are happy and aroused by what we do because we are obeying. So we don’t feel shame (because a good slave is focused on what the Master thinks, not what others think) and so humiliation kinda falls flat. I’ve done things that would be embarrassing or that i would never choose to do if it were my choice - but they never hold a significant interest or reaction.
It’s like that old saying “You can’t punish masochist.” - Because the more pain you give them - the more they love it. It’s hard to humiliate a slave and most Slave owners are more interested in creating obedience and passion for serving more than shame.
Thank you for your questions. I wish you and your Master a great amount of joy and discovering in your practice.